By Sana
BHMS and Yoga Trainer
27 June 2022 -
Medically reviewed by
Dhanashree
MA (Psychology)
Is Asexuality A Mental Illness?
Table of Contents

PRIDE WEEK of MENTAL HEALTH-

This ongoing week is the last week of pride month. Pride month, as we all know, is celebrated globally to support our dear friends and cherish their freedom of sexualities. While doing so, we as a 'Practical Anxiety solution' team believe that not only the outer world nor the society we live in needs some change. To be at peace, we must have a mental health awareness movement among the LGBTQ+ community. This is our way to support the ongoing pride month! Pride Week of Mental Health.

What Is Asexuality?

Asexuality is mere sexual orientation. There are many sexual orientations like heterosexuality or homosexuality, and even pansexuality. In Asexuality, instead of being attracted to men or women, one feels sexual attraction toward no one. No gender attracts them. These people don't feel sexually attracted at all, but that doesn't mean they don't feel any attraction. They may handle other types of interests other than sexual attraction. The most important thing is they hate sex or similar feelings, nor do they try to avoid it, but it only means they don't find people sexually attractive.(Bogaert, A.F., 2015

Aside from sexual attractions, they can experience the following emotions- 

  • Romantic attraction- desiring a romantic relationship with someone
  • Aesthetic attraction- being attracted to someone based on how they look
  • Sensual or physical attraction- wanting to touch, hold or cuddle someone
  • Platonic attraction- wanting to be friends with someone
  • Emotional attraction - wanting an emotional connection with someone

5 Things to Know About Asexuality

  1. Asexuality doesn't mean you don't have a sex drive

Just because you feel you are asexual, or 'ace' is what they call it in everyday language. That does not entirely mean you don't have a sex drive. It needs not to mean you are not completely uninterested in sexual coexistence. Many asexual people can enjoy sex. Always remember - Asexuality comes in various formats. (Milligan, M.S. and Neufeldt, A.H., 2001)

  1. Asexuality and celibacy are different things -

Celibacy is a completely different thing than asexuality. Celibacy is, most of the time, a choice that someone opts for their life. It's a lifestyle choice. An asexual person may be celibate by choice, but it doesn't mean every celibate is asexual.

  1. There's nothing wrong with asexual people-

Asexuality is not at all a mental illness. Not experiencing sexual attractions is not at all a flaw. It need not be treated with therapy or medications. However, therapy can help someone to accept themselves better. It is always better to accept yourself.

  1. Asexuality is not a disease-

Asexuality is just like the rest of the LGBTQ. Let's accept this; this is how you were born and not a reaction to any trauma or anything. Sometimes it can be a hard thing to accept yourself, and good therapy can help you to accept yourself. But asexuality is nothing to be treated if you are comfortable with yourself.

  1. Asexuality won't disappear-

There is the most common misconception asexuality is something that will go away when you find the right one. This is a completely false statement. Asexuality cannot disappear when you fall in love, but just because you are asexual doesn't mean you cannot fall in love or find the perfect person to live with.

Aexuality And Social Stigma

FOLLOWING ARE THE PROBLEMS FACED BY ASEXUAL PERSONS DUE TO SOCIAL STIGMA.

Imposter Syndrome

IMPOSTER SYNDROME is a syndrome when someone feels fraud about their personality. There is a constant struggle going on about sexuality. And that's why they face imposter syndrome. You don't have to force a label that doesn't feel right, and it's okay if what feels right changes over time.

Struggling To Fit In

Some ace folks may feel unable to connect with peers, particularly during puberty, college, or early adulthood. At certain life stages, it can feel like sex is the only thing your peers care about, and there can be a lot of pressure to talk about people you find attractive or want to be physical with. 

Anxiety

Acknowledging that your sexuality is different than you thought - and different from the "norm" - can be difficult, and especially so for asexual individuals living in a sex-focused culture.

Remember: Your sexuality and identity are your own, and you can decide how and when you talk about them.

You might wonder about what this means for your dating life and even your social life.

Conclusion 

FORGET WHAT'S OUTSIDE! FOCUS ON WHAT'S INSIDE!

It’s our suggestion to the demisexual community out there is never focus on what’s going on outside. In the outside world, it may be your pretentious friends, maybe someone notorious from your family, or even someone from your professional circle. Never focus on the outer negative world, focus on what matters. Your MIND! Your mind being at peace is the only way to achieve sheer positivity and comfort even in the long ongoing social hassle. Never focus on what’s outside, focus on what matters! You!

Happy Pride Month to All ‘Practical Anxiety Solutions users. Stay mentally fit. Stay happy!

What's on your mind?

Start a conversation, Post with kindness.